You've tried “everything”.
Walk me through it.
What did you actually commit to (fully, no off-ramp)… and quit anyway? What did you learn? When did you stop? And what do all those stopping points have in common?
That's our first conversation. Not a challenge to your personal truth.
Because "everything" is never everything. And somewhere in the gap between what you've tried and what you've actually been willing to do is the thing that's kept you exactly where you are.
You already know this. That's why you're here.
You’ve read the books. Done the work. Even had a “breakthrough” or two.
You’re still here.
Stop Lying to Yourself is for the person who’s tried everything the self-help industry prescribed… And is finally ready to understand why none of it stuck.
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For six years he poured everything into an organization he helped build from one small school to a national network. Not just his effort. His identity. Culture builder. Systems creator. The leader with the perfect feedback scores who showed up for every fire and never once asked what it was costing him.
Then came January. First day back from winter break. Live video call, cameras on. The executive team announced they'd created the VP role — the one he'd been promised first shot at, the one he'd moved his family across the country for — filled it, and kept moving. In front of a hundred colleagues who knew exactly what they were watching happen to him.
He stayed another two and a half years. As a zombie.
Come home. See Pennee and the girls for a few minutes. Disappear into the office. Tell them he was building something. Tell himself the same. Every Sunday, map out the perfect week that would be rubble by Monday afternoon. Repeat. For two years. The gap between who he was presenting and who he actually was didn't show up in his habits. It showed up in his identity.
It was Pennee who named it. Not cruelly. Just clearly. She'd been watching long enough.
He walked away from education with no guarantee it would work. Built a coaching practice from scratch. Logged 9,000+ hours sitting across from high achievers, leaders, and executives doing the exact same thing he'd done — performing for their lives instead of actually living them.
Stop Lying to Yourself is what he learned. From them. And from himself first.
Lester is also the co-creator and co-host of Dare to Dad — a podcast built with adolescent medicine pediatrician Dr. Bobo Blankson for fathers who want to show up differently than the world expects them to. In 2024, he created and hosted GameWell, a two-day virtual summit featuring over 30 experts from organizations including Harvard, the World Health Organization, Roblox, Blizzard, and TikTok — bringing the gaming industry and parents into the same room to change the conversation about kids and screens.
Dr. Lester Clowes
Educator. Professional dancer. Laker Girl. Stay-at-home mom. Leadership roles in sales. Each identity picked up where the last one left off. None of them fully hers.
The stability she'd built was real. Until it wasn't.
What she found on the other side wasn't a cleaner version of the same plan. It was herself — including the anxiety she'd spent years rerouting around, the ADHD she'd never fully owned, and the identity she realized she'd been assembling from everyone else's expectations since she was old enough to know what was expected of her.
Pennee holds a coaching certification in neurodivergence from Beacon College. She works with adolescent girls and women who are smart, capable, and quietly overwhelmed — the ones who've been told they just need to try harder, when what they actually need is a better map of how they're wired. If that's you, or someone you love, reach out to schedule your free consult.
Pennee Clowes
Together, they run DEFY. Because real change doesn't start with better habits or stronger motivation. It starts with telling the truth about why the old ones never worked.
You already know something is off.
You've read enough, tried enough, and come up far short enough times to know the problem isn't effort. It isn't discipline. It isn't even motivation.
It's something more specific than that... And it has a name.
Ten questions. No empty inspiration. Just the truth about which lie has the strongest grip on you — and exactly where in Stop Lying to Yourself to go after it.
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No pitch. No pressure. Just tell me what's on your mind.