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Defy the average.

The Dare to Dad Podcast

Ep. 17

8000+

Hours of 1:1 Coaching Experience

Reclaim your future.

You also know the current "you" will never achieve it.

You know there is more.

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The DEFY Method

RESET

Turn intention into clear action

REDESIGN

Resilient
Mindset

Tools to bounce back stronger

RECLAIM

Continuous
Growth

Habits that compound over a lifetime

Stop Chasing Motivation and Start Making Progress

Are you tired of feeling stuck and frustrated with your life?
You feel lost in endless motivation cycles.
You dread living a life you don't want.
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Your dreams feel so far out of reach...
Inaction is keeping you trapped in frustration.
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Failure scares you, and that fear is holding you back.
Years of procrastination find you in the same place years later.
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You're listening to voices that hold you back - not push you forward.
Your potential remains unexplored and wasted. 
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We Know What It's Like to Feel Stuck in Life.

And we know what it's like to finally stop pretending everything is fine.

Dr. Lester Clowes spent years building something that looked exactly right from the outside. Career. House. Dog. Every box checked. And underneath it — a hollowness he couldn't shake and a bitterness he kept explaining away.

The worst part? He was coaching others to bet on themselves while quietly living like a zombie.

It took his wife calling out his hypocrisy to wake him up.

That's the moment DEFY became real — not a philosophy, but a decision. He risked everything to build a coaching practice rather than keep collecting credentials for a life he'd already outgrown.

Now he works with high achievers, leaders, and executives who are performing for their life instead of actually living it — and who are ready to stop.

Pennee Clowes had the path mapped, too. Educator. Professional dancer. Laker Girl. Stay-at-home mom. And then the leadership titles and career track in the world of sales. The stability she'd built was real... Until it wasn't. 

What she found on the other side wasn't a cleaner version of the same plan. It was herself. The anxiety she'd managed around, the ADHD she'd never fully owned, the identity she'd been assembling from everyone else's expectations.

Pennee now holds a coaching certification in neurodivergence from Beacon College and works with adolescent girls and women who are smart, capable, and quietly overwhelmed — the ones who've been told they just need to try harder when what they actually need is a better system.

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Resilience Rituals

Building Bounce-Back Muscles. Daily practices that turn setbacks into springboards.

About Ellen

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